我的生活心得

于丹在中国中央电视台上的百家讲坛之“《论语》心得”，前阵子在中国热播并得到巨大回响，各界褒贬不一，尤以来自学术界的批判较为引人注目。我倒觉得于丹的诠释虽然只能够代表她自己的理解和看法，但也不失为以一种深入浅出的方式，把古代圣贤的精深道理融会贯通，使之通俗易懂，让普罗大众也能够通过她的讲解得到一些启示。我就肤浅点，对于《论语》只有以下的浅解：

孔子的中心思想的确是“仁”，其表现是：“己欲立而立人，己欲达而达人”和“己所不欲，勿施于人”。“仁”就是“爱人”，就这么简单。“智”就是“知人”，也就这么简单。“忠”、“孝”、“礼”、“义”都是“爱人”的表现，此乃建筑在“知人”的层面上。

凡事都需要“将心比心”。

"Don't do unto others what you won't want others to do unto you".

大家自幼学习，得到了一箩筐的知识：上通天文、下知地理。但是，人们往往欠缺的就是运用知识的“大智慧”。试想想：单单在一年里，遍布在全世界的各所大学就培育出数以万计的毕业生，为何真正成为the likes of Bill Gates, Stephen Hawking, Richard Feynman 的人却屈指可数呢？显然的，大学文凭只能作为我们事业上的踏脚石，而世界上的顶尖人物都不只局限于自己的专业里。In fact, to a fair extent, EQ works on the premise that you know what the others do and how the others feel. It is different from empathy because all you need to acquire is knowledge and not a floodgate of feelings. And when I mean knowledge I mean DIVERSE knowledge. Knowledgeable so to speak. This is my own interpretation of EQ. If EQ is indeed an essential quality to succeed, then human relationships should form the bedrock of our lives.

I was attending a Japanese lecture last week when the teacher asked if we know who the person in her picture is. She was surprised by the silence that we all shared, assuming that we know a lot as undergraduates. I didn't want to play the hero to answer her; I was too shy in a 100-student crowd. Only a small number of us know who the person is (at least I thought it was obvious), as most of the heads shook profusely in reply to the teacher. The person is Yasuo Fukuda, the current Prime Minister of Japan. Sigh, 我们真的活在一个知识贫乏的时代。In another lesson, people could not identify the flag of Finland even when they are using Nokia mobile phones. The lack of time should never be an excuse for a corresponding lack of knowledge. A lack of interest, perhaps?

Obviously, however, I won't succeed, although my definition of success is merely living within my own means. I am an aspiring hermit, whose life will rest upon the tranquility attained from a lack of bonds and relationships.